i just read a book entitled WELLBEING by Tom Rath and Jim Harter.
it discusses the 5 essential elements to being well.
1) career wellbeing
2) social wellbeing
3) financial wellbeing
4) physical wellbeing
5) community wellbeing
and it opened my eyes a bit to the meaning of well,… wellbeing. 😉
in career wellbeing, along with hoping to love what we do, even if thats not entirely the case-we want to feel appreciated and that we’re doing a good job. we are programmed to desire the feeling of accomplishment. interesting. how many bosses appreciate or dont appreciate their employees? if you are a boss…take a second to revere your staff, it enhances morale and allows the space for employees to want to perform better. its proven.
in social wellbeing it says that we long connection with others around us. we are happier when we share with others. and theres a balance between alone time and interacting socially. it states that for us to feel well socially-we dont have to have the most friends, we just need a few that support us, help us achieve, and that help us develop and grow. so we truly are “the company we keep”.
in financial wellbeing it seems that we tend to want to keep up with the joneses, but in research, studies have shown that people that tend to be happier arent those with the most things, the biggest houses, or the newest Cartier watch. research indicates the happiest people are those that have their basic needs met (food, shelter,clothing) and then have extra for sharing with those around them. people tend to be happier when they actually buy for others rather than themselves. and that happiness deepens when one can share an experience with someone else rather than a material gift. memories that we make from a small trip or a party thrown for your best friend tends to make us happy. so as it seems the “newness” of the watch will last for maybe a month, the memories of your friday night dinner party with friends will recycle over and over.
in physical wellbeing there is a direct connection between physical exertion and happiness. there are chemicals released, toxins removed, and the sloth-like feeling dissipates. i see it personally with my training clients-if they havent been with me for a while, due to work or scheduling, after a few session back in it, there mood is enhanced. and as i would love to say that im so disgustingly charming to be around….its not me, its the physical release they get and all the perks that come from pushing their bodies, sweating, and the overall sense of accomplishment. and usually when one implements a good work out, they tend to wanna follow that up with healthy, mindful eating. it all pays off…the result…more happiness. its simple, really.
in community wellbeing it poses the idea that we all like to be passionate about something. a cause, a fight for finding a cure, sitting with the elderly…something. this is what makes up our “community” the things and people that shape our lives for purpose. when we have a healthy outlet or hobby, we also feel a sense of purpose that brings peace to our minds. it gets us out of our own neurosis and we then can put forth energy to a cause that we feel connected to for whatever reason. maybe someone in your family battles cancer so you do the AVON walk, or you love kids so you volunteer at a BOYS AND GIRLS CLUB, this brings…you guessed it…a sense of happiness.
and the key to all of these is to have them in balance. if your a little plump in the financial arena, but a little anorexic in social wellbeing…the scales are tipped. what good is all that money if you dont have the social outlet to enjoy the finances?…and i know youre thinking to yourself, “shit, if i had money who needs to be social?”…but think of all the people who have money, but arent happy because their “wellbeings” arent in balance…there is some truth to this book and what it speaks. or what if your community wellbeing is thriving and youre fighting so many causes your passionate about, but your career wellbeing looks bleak and youre not earning money to pay your bills? there has to be balance.
cut it like a pie.
we all hunger for acceptance.
we all desire to feel accomplished.
we all seek approval of a job well done.
we all want someone to say, “hey, im your friend, you can count on me.”
we all want to feel the security of being able to pay our light bill.
we can have all of these things, and have them in abundance.
today i am grateful for my body that can go on a long run and clear the cob-webs in my head.
today i am grateful for my hands and mind that can earn a dollar.
today i am grateful that i have enough to feed myself.
today i am grateful for all my friends and my support system i can give to and receive from…(this makes me truly wealthy).
today i am grateful for my passions that keep me aflame.
today i am.